Is there a new mom of multiples in your family or circle of friends? Have you been trying to figure out what to get her for Christmas and coming up empty handed? Well, have we got the post for you! Below are Twiniversity’s top tips for what to get the new mom of multiples in your life for the holidays.
We surveyed our fans and the overwhelming majority of them preferred gifts that centered on 3 things:
1. Getting some rest
Free babysitting! Create a handmade gift certificate, redeemable for 4 or more hours of babysitting. Enlist a friend or family member to help you babysit so the parents can get some much needed Z’s, take a long shower, and have some quality alone time doing whatever they want. Or if the family has older kids, offer to take the kids out of the house for a day of fun.
Hire a housekeeping service to clean up the place! Coordinate a time that’s best for the family so they won’t be home when the service is there and they can arrive home to a fresh clean house.
Do their laundry. Wash, fold, and put it all away for them. In between loads, help out with washing dishes, vacuum, tidy up the place, and help out with childcare if she needs it. Be the best helper you can be!
A night nanny. When the babies are really little there is very little sleep going on for the parents. Hiring a night nanny will give the best gift ever for a solid 8 hours. In urban areas this service usually runs $18+ an hour (figure around $150-$300 for 1 night). Encourage other friends and family members to chip in and give them more than just 1 night. Hand over one big check to mom so she can make payments to the nanny directly. Good referrals for a night nanny are a nice touch — ask the local Moms of Multiples club and her OB’s office for recommendations.
I recommend you contact the grandparents before giving this gift to make sure it’s something the twin parents would enjoy. Some mothers exclusively breastfeed and some twins come home with special medical equipment that requires training, so having a night nanny might be more trouble than it’s worth.
2. Hot meals
Good eats. A hand-delivered frozen casserole, a gift card to Boston Market or Panera, or a gift card to a local restaurant that does take-out for nights when they just can’t deal with cooking (if you have GrubHub or Delivery.com in your area, check that out!) Hot meals are in demand for new parents of twins. This may seem like a strange gift but BELIEVE ME, it is worth GOLD to a new twin mom. A big casserole means not having to worry about preparing food for several meals in a row!
A nice touch is to bring the hot meal to their house, ready to go, and let the parents sit alone in the dining room or kitchen to enjoy their meal while you watch their kids. Even 30-60 minutes of a nice quiet meal can completely refresh them!
Want to really go all out? Coordinate her friends and family in secret to commit to a Meal Train. This free online service will allow her contacts to sign up for a date and time to bring a hot meal (or have it delivered) and she doesn’t have to do a thing! You can fill out the Meal Train page with tips on local delivery places, the family’s favorite foods, and suggest specific dates and times for people to choose from. Present this to her in a nice card with details on the website so she can check it out and see when her meals will arrive! This is a really thoughtful gift and will probably leave your twin mom in tears… of joy!
3. Getting out of the house and having some fun!
Gift cards are king!
– To a local live theater or movie theater for a date night with the hubby.
– Ticketmaster gift cards are perfect for lovers of live events, concerts, sports, etc.
– Groupon gift cards are great for finding new local events and activities at discount prices.
Resist the temptation to buy her any clothing which might not be her size anymore, or fancy jewelry that will not be worn for a long time, and focus more on what she loves to do in her free time (when she used to have free time, that is!) If you are really dying to buy her clothes/jewelry, definitely include a gift receipt.
Twin Z Nursing Pillow — Use it for tandem breastfeeding, bottle-feeding two babies at once, double tummy-time, and sitting-up support!
Gift cards to stores with baby stuff! Babies R Us, Costco, Target, Walmart, Walgreens, CVS — stores that twin moms visit a LOT for random stuff as well as staples like diapers, wipes, formula, and new baby gear as the twins grow.
Amazon Prime membership — this $99 service means 2-day shipping for a full year for any “Prime” item on Amazon.com. It also includes tons of free streaming TV shows, movies, and eBooks which can really help for all those late-night pumping sessions. Prime members can register for free for Amazon Mom which offers discounts for diapers, wipes, and other household essentials.
And if you really, truly love your new twin mom, you’ll do her a BIG favor and snag her a copy of What To Do When You’re Having Two, which provides expert advice from Twiniversity founder Natalie Diaz on how to survive twins from pregnancy through Year 1. I have read many twin parenting books and this one is on the top of my list!
Here are some ideas from our loyal fans
“An IOU for a kid-free shower time, help with meals or just offering help!” – Sheryl P.
“Guilt free date nights w/ daddy!” – Lisa O.
“Someone brought me paper plates, utensils and cups in bulk so I didn’t have to worry about dishes for awhile with my older kids. That was amazing!” – Lauren C.
“I always wanted a twin nursing pillow but never got one. If she is breastfeeding I suggest that.” – Melodiejade
“Diapers! And if they are not breast feeding find out what bottles they are using because they will go through over 10 a day and the good ones are pricey. And buy them formula!!! Oh and a diaper pail on each floor of the house and a swing!!” – AmyLue D.
“I breastfed my twins and my very favorite gift was a baby scale! I kept it on the kitchen counter and every couple of days I would bathe the babes in the sink and I would weigh them just before. It was so reassuring to check their weight gain at home like that.” – Missy S.
“The gift of a twin-friendly outfit. One that I could feel good in but still function in. As far as help — clean for me.” – Christina E.
“Meals and cleaning help, or even just grocery shopping. Or watch the twins while I go grocery shopping.” – Reyna R.
“Meals that one could just heat up. One friend came to visit and see the twins when they were born and she helped wash the dishes and sent me to relax while she took care of the twins.” – Michelle J.
“I loved the little gifts people brought over when they came to meet my twins, but I would have been so grateful for a couple meals! Frozen lasagnas and casseroles would have been so amazing!” – Amanda M.
“Sleep, house cleaners, a personal chef…” – Jackie P.
“Go & HELP HER. I have twin boys and it’s hard to do alone. GO HELP!” – Donna K.