The following piece was originally featured on Windtraveler, a personal blog by Twiniversity contributor Brittany Meyers. Brittany and her husband Scott are parents to a toddler girl plus twin baby girls and they have just set sail again in the British Virgin Islands where they are living on a boat with their 3 kids! You should really check out her blog here.
10 Things Not to Say to a Woman Pregnant with Twins
I have been really lucky throughout this twin pregnancy, and I am incredibly grateful for this fact. I have suffered no complications and I have only had only one super creepy encounter where a woman (possibly on drugs) wanted to accost my belly and rub it in a semi-sexual and really awkward way (for the record, I don’t mind belly touching – but this woman was….creepy). One thing I have not escaped, however, are the strange/weird/bizarre comments that strangers often make when they find out I am pregnant with twins. I was warned this would happen by just about every twin mom I have spoken with, so I was prepared for it – but even still, I am sometimes shocked by the things people will say to a total stranger.
With no further ado, here are ten things we twin moms-to-be would rather not hear you say if you run into us…Laugh with me, will you? This is all in good fun.
1) Are they natural?
2) Were you trying for twins?
3) I don’t know if you are blessed or cursed!
4) Rather you than me!
5) Three girls?! Poor, poor you!
6) You plan to breastfeed? Good luck with that! (sarcastic)
7) When will they section you?
8) How much weight have you gained?
9) You sure seem to lay around a lot.
10) So, when are you going to try for a boy?
I have been asked this no fewer than one hundred times. Yes, we will obviously be an estrogen-rich family and, newsflash!, they are not even here yet! Give us a minute, would you? While not all twin moms are getting two or three of the same sex, many complain that they are also asked about future children as well (“so you’re done now, right?“) and it can be pretty annoying. For the record: We are thrilled with three girls. I could go on and on about why I think three girls is the perfect combination for us but I will spare you. At this time we have absolutely NO plans to have any more children, particularly now that we know I am prone to “double drop” eggs and the likelihood of more twins is high. I mean, can you imagine!?!
So there they are, my personal top ten. Fellow twin moms, what are your favorites? Feel free to share in the comments!
Brittany Meyers is a happy (and still shocked) mom of “three under three” who lives on a sailboat in the Caribbean with her husband and three daughters. She writes about their adventures in life (and parenting) while afloat at www.windtraveler.net.
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