This week on the Twiniversity Podcast Nat chats with Michelle Carroll, a mom of 21-month-old boy/girl twins, about the things the internet and social media don’t tell you about having twins, including possible birth trauma, how to prepare yourself if your twins come early, and the struggle of breastfeeding twins.
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The Internet Didn’t Prepare Me for My Twin Delivery | Twin Mom Michelle Carroll
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Hi there, I’m Michelle Carroll, a creative storyteller specializing in styling, web development, and graphic + web design. A burning desire to get my creative juices flowing led me to move from my hometown in the Great Plains of Shawnee, Kansas to Brooklyn, New York, which has been my home away from home for 10 years. When I’m not creating mood boards or writing code for clients while sipping on iced coffee, I love to spend time with friends, my husband, and our toddler twins. Find me on Instagram @fashionablybroke.
Top 3 pieces of advice for other parents of twins
- Establish a routine early. It will take some time to get used to not only having one baby but two! Don’t rush it, but try to establish a routine around 3-4 months old with when they wake, eat and go back to sleep. For us, it was easier for it to be baby-led. I think as adults you don’t realize how instinctive a baby is – they will tell you what they need by crying or showing signs of sleepiness – you just have to pick up on it.
- Expect the unexpected. Many books and advice are geared towards singletons. Whether your babies are identical or fraternal, they very well may have complete opposite personalities and what’s said in the books or the blogs may not work for both babies. It will be hard, but treat each baby as an individual, therefore when something is mentioned in a book that is supposed to happen at a certain time and in a certain way, know that each baby will come around on their own time.
- Don’t compare their development milestones. You will have well-meaning friends and family members compare their development and milestones. If one starts walking or talking before the other, don’t worry. Almost all babies eventually do these things, right? So don’t stress if one has done it months before the other. We saw one twin crawl, stand, and then walk in a quick time frame while the other twin was just a little “behind.” When he was beginning to stand and she was beginning to walk, he saw that and did not have a standing phase very long because he wanted to start walking just like her. They will encourage each other without saying much (or needing your help!).
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Top 3 things you’d like our listeners to take away after listening to your story
- Go with the flow! You will be tired, frustrated and at a loss sometimes. But you have to take everything as a moment in time and move to the next moment. Or hope for the better moment to come along faster. Twins are unpredictable and they can drive you crazy. But they are also a lot of fun.
- Be on the same page as your partner. In the beginning, you will be so stressed and tired you may be at each other’s throats a lot. Again, take this as a moment in time. But also establish before or in the early stages how your routine will be with each other. If you want to split the duties 60/40, do that! You will need your partner’s help as much as possible. Speak up if you need their help or outside help like a MIL, sister, etc.
- Take advice/guidelines/milestones with a grain of salt. Do what is best for your kids and what your pediatrician advises as well. If being on a tight schedule works for you and but your MIL is loose in scheduling, don’t let her comments bother you.
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