The Biggest Lies About Having Twins

People like to tell twin parents (including other twin parents) all sorts of things about what to expect with twins. Inside this article, twin parents share the biggest lies they were told about having twins.

When you find out you’re having twins or multiples, all sorts of people come out of the woodwork to tell you about what to expect.

And while they may have the best of intentions or simply don’t know what to say and resort to a common albeit untrue saying about twins, sometimes all the advice can feel overwhelming. Perhaps even harmful.

Even when coming from other “seasoned” twin parents, certain wisdom may not apply since every twin family has their own unique circumstances and challenges.

So without further ado, here’s a glimpse into what twin parents share about the biggest lies they were told about having twins!

We recently asked our twin parent community…

What was the biggest lie you were told about having twins?

And here’s what they had to say…

“It gets easier… it doesn’t. But the obstacles and goals change. Parenting has never been easy.” — Candi

“That the newborn stage was the hardest…”— Morgan

“That they will have a built-in best friend. My di di boy girl twins love each other and yes they have a special bond, but they fight just like any other siblings. Saying they have a built in playmate is false and misleading, they have a sibling that’s the same age…” — Chadeayne

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“They will have someone to play/occupy each other.” — Casey

“That they will sleep the same!! One is an early riser the other loves his sleep!!!!” — Ariel

“If you get them two identical toys, they’ll each be content. Nope! They just fight over one of the toys instead!” — Becca

“Sleep when the babies sleep. Sometimes their sleep isn’t synced.” – Ashley

“At least they’ll be on the same schedule. In reality, mine love to tag team me all night — when one wakes up, the other somehow senses it’s their turn too.” — Lauren

“When they were babies, everyone told me to wake one up if the other woke up. I never did that and one slept through the night way earlier because I did not wake them up together.” — Ashely

“Not so much a lie I was told, but I was not prepared for the fact that the world is not built for multiples. Shopping carts, back seats in cars, doorways for strollers, carriers for 2. But having twins can be magical in my opinion. What a unique motherhood.” — Jourdan

“That your life is over. It’s literally the most amazing, incredible thing that’s ever happened to me.” – Elizabeth

“That it would be harder than having a singleton. But for me they were much easier babies than my first.” — Alexis

“#1—It’s never been two for the price of one. The reality is it’s two right now. Not pay for one now and pay for one later. #2—The first few years when they are not independent are the hardest. 100% not accurate for me. Hands down the hardest thing has been saying goodbye to them every fall as they go back to college and living in an almost empty house.” — Ana

“It gets easier as they get older. No. The older they get life changes and new things come into their lives. Best years of my life was watching them grow up. Having twin girls, 2 proms sometimes 4 and homecoming and hair and makeup and 2 weddings. Priceless.” – Lynn

“It’ll get easier when they become toddlers.” — Tugli

“That they are gonna come very early and they will be very small. My twins did come a little early, but they were not small.” – Joan

“It gets easier when they’re about 5 or 6. Here I am and no it doesn’t.” — Meg

“That it would get easier at the 3 month mark. It in fact did not get easier lol.” – Ro

“First year is the hardest. Wrong . Tween and Teenage years.” — Ann

“That it was only twice the work!! It felt like four times the work, especially if they were both hungry, crying and wet at the same time.” — Stacey

“That they wouldn’t be on time with things my girls are 17 months old and talking in almost full sentences they know they’re ABC can count 25 walked at 7 1/2 months.” — Jay

“That you can’t give birth through normal delivery but through C-section.” — Mathlis

“The special bond. They don’t. They fight a lot! My husband and his identical twin the same thing.” – Julie

“That having 2 kids close together in age (ie a year apart) is “basically the same as twins.” It’s not.” – Nanette

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“That I would never be able to breastfeed them both without supplementation. Spoiler alert….I did.” — Christine

“They start sleeping better at 12 weeks. Lies. It gets easier as they get older, life just throws new challenges at you. Now we are 14 yrs in it is easier a little..but its the fights now . I’m referee all the time.” – Sarah

“’Oh my God, we can’t wait to babysit your twins.’ Still…waiting…” — Mario

“How hard it was going to be…. Yes we were in the trenches for a while. And there are days. But it has been truly amazing. And I would do it all again in a heartbeat!!” – Phyllis

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