In today’s episode, Nat chats with Brittany Bezore, mom to 3-year-old twin boys and a 9-month-old boy, about the trials of the twins resenting the new baby, understanding twin language, getting her twins into speech therapy, her twins’ bedtime chit chat, and the mistake of comparing herself to moms of singletons.
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Twin Language and Resenting the New Baby | Twin Mom Brittany Bezore
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Brittany Bezore is a stay-at-home mom to three boys, 3-year-old twins, Maverick and Murphy, and 9-month-old Major. She lives in Savannah, Georgia where she was born and raised. She is married to a Captain in the Georgia Air National Guard. Brittany loves to lift weights, take the boys on walks, visit state and national parks, and spend time with her family. She is currently studying to be a Certified Personal Trainer so she can help other moms feel better about themselves and reach their health and lifestyle goals. Find her on Instagram @brittanyl.bezore
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Top 3 pieces of advice for other parents of twins
- Do not compare yourself or your twins to other mothers and kids. It is so different with more than 1 baby at a time and it’s so easy to look at another mother who has it all together and wonder what you are doing wrong. Don’t even go there, just know that you are doing your best, doing what it takes to survive!
- Socialize your twins as soon as you can. I wish I would have done this sooner because they are so dependent on each other and struggle with being around other kids. This might help with twins resenting the new baby.
- Let them play. Let them go into their playroom (or an area of the house that’s safe) and play alone or with each other while you take a minute to yourself and decompress. It’s easy to get caught up in just catering to all the little people but it’s ok to let them play so you can have a minute to yourself.
Top 3 things you wish you had done differently
- I wish I would have started my twins in speech sooner. They have their own language and by age 3 they get extremely frustrated when we can’t understand them. Save yourself a lot of frustration and just get them in speech!
- I wish I would have asked for more help. I have an issue where I think that no one else can take care of my kids the way I do, but let them go with grandma or grandpa so you can get things done or take time to yourself and ask for help with groceries or chores!
- Don’t stress about the house! Let it be dirty! Enjoy the time with your twins sometimes instead of worrying about cleaning because it goes way too fast. Forget about the chores occasionally!
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