Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian

Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian

This week on the Twiniversity Podcast Nat chats with Katie Booms Assarian, mom of 23-month-old twins, about her experience with postpartum anxiety (PPA).  Katie’s twins were born at 30 weeks and spent 52 days in the NICU. Katie managed her postpartum anxiety with the help of an excellent partner, counseling, medication, very long walks with the double stroller, and narrating her babies’ daily life in song or funny accents.

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Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian
Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian
Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian
Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twiniversity Podcast With Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian

Postpartum Anxiety is a Bitch | Twin Mom Katie Booms Assarian


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Katie Booms Assarian is a poet, mama to girl/boy twin toddlers, and a full-time admin in the Midwest city government. She posts small, hopeful poems at www.commonpoem.com. She is currently revising a full-length collection of poetry chronicling her NICU experiences, tentatively titled “But Where Are the Babies?” She’d be glad to share that project or chat with any other NICU parents. Contact her through that website!

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Top 3 pieces of advice for other parents of twins

  1. This is one big, long one! Talk long, hard, and early with your parenting partner(s) about your expectations of each other. Are you splitting work 50/50? 60/40? 90/10? (Bad idea.) Which parent or helper will do which tasks? Maybe researching twin baby gear, buying and organizing all that stuff, planning daily routines, running doctor appointments, doing actual childcare, cooking, cleaning, and household maintenance…How are you going to signal when you’re going batty?
  2. Check-in with your partner again when the darlings arrive, every few weeks as the kids’ “sleep” schedule changes, and whenever one of you gets that panicked look in the eye.
  3. If you can wrangle any and all outside help, that’s great, but you are really going to lean on your main partner(s). You don’t want to find yourself both fake-sleeping while the kids cry, again, hoping the other parent gives in first. And, knowing that mamas are pretty likely to experience a postpartum mood disorder and/or physical healing, you’ll want to get this sorted while it’s still calm. Otherwise, 18 years is a long time for resentment to build.
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Top 3 things you’d like our listeners to take away after listening to your story

  1. Postpartum anxiety (PPA) can be very scary and isolating. You may not trust yourself with your babies. Or you may not trust anyone else with your babies. I doubt you’ll want to confess to anyone that you’re, say, repeatedly picturing what it would look like if your babies fell down the stairs, for fear of what it might mean about you and your new-mom status.
  2. You will almost definitely have to advocate for yourself– and keep asking. Your doctors will probably give you vague depression screeners. Your partner might notice you are struggling if they can see above their own brain fog. About a hundred nurses, family members, and strangers outside the grocery store will ask you how you’re doing. But PPA (like a few others) isn’t as well-known as postpartum depression. Apparently, I still looked like I was holding it all together, super-twin-mom style. I had to show my partner a 10″x14″ word doodle to communicate the extent of my multivariate freaked-out-edness. The more stoic you are, the later that PPA symptoms appear after your birth (it can happen up to 1 year later), and the longer you hesitate to seek out support, the easier it will be for you to slip under the “postpartum” radar.
  3. Every little bit of outside help…helps. You found this podcast, so hopefully, now you know it’s not just you. Go tell your most trusted person so they can have your back. Brave a postpartum support group where other parents totally get it. Get to root beliefs and coping strategies with your therapist (or one the hospital can recommend–they have lists). Discuss your symptoms and possible treatments with your doctor, doula, and/or midwife. Shout out: I also borrowed strength from the comics by Karen Kleiman and Molly McIntyre for the Postpartum Stress Center, which I first found on Buzzfeed here. Their book “Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts” and the hashtag #speakthesecret are powerful. It gets dark. I was in that dark too. I hope this podcast, along with all the Twiniversity resources, will give you that sense of community too.
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Keep in Touch

A poem by Katie Booms Assarian

Keep in touch

is a hard promise

right now.

It is usually easier

not to talk about this

with our friends and our own parents,

with coworkers and strangers.

Easier,

to only hear our own doubts,

only sit

with our own questions.

A premature infant,

like our two,

needs to be touched—

but only

gently, occasionally.

They stay in their isolettes,

incubators six feet apart,

covered by quilts

to keep out even light

and the beep

and the beep

and the beep

of the monitors.

We are supposed to

touch our own babies

as if asking permission,

by laying our hands

on them slow, still,

without caressing.

The nurses say preemies

feel a parent’s stroking

as pain.

For the first few days,

we do ask for permission

to touch them at all:

to turn off their air control

and reach through the portals

for even the sweet baby

scent of them.

I—

am like this now, too,

when I have been in bed

all afternoon, all evening, pumping

many hours before my husband

comes home or is ready for bed,

and he cracks the door,

brings in the light, and sounds,

and the reality of the whole empty house.

He wants to rub my temples

as a comfort, ask me about my day,

but he wakes me.

He forgets to murmur.

Uses his regular voice,

instead of the hush

I am part of now.

He is still in touch

with the outside world

that I am not.

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